Reflection on foundations of relationships

 Men often leave when you are in the process of personal growth. 

This is why becoming a high-value woman is essential to attract a man who is equally high-value and doesn't require "lessons" in basic communication, psychology, human behavior, self-insight, and understanding his own wants and needs. 

A man should already have a well-established routine that aligns with yours. You shouldn't have to teach him how to eat healthily or exercise because he already knows these things. He has his own path and walks it, but it should align with your values and morals. Together, you can grow through a pure and authentic connection that does not compromise time, energy, or draw from either person's sphere (codependency). You each lead independent and passionate lives full of purpose that complement each other, instead of complicating matters or creating discord. 

By sharing values, principles, morals, and a few common goals (while also being aware of what each of you brings to the table), you create a common purpose and lay down a shared foundation. Set goals as a couple to work toward, and don’t neglect your individual personal goals. This is key: stay healthy and remain focused on your true purpose.

Reflecting on my journey, I was doing well until 2017. At that point, I fell into a codependent pattern with my ex due to poor guidance in therapy. I mismanaged the dynamics that were at play. I can either blame that therapist or take responsibility myself. I need to trace back to before all of this, start anew, and be reborn. Time has been wasted. Who is to blame?

One day, I will summarize all this pain and use it as a powerful mechanism to help others like me. I needed to confront darkness and understand what lies at rock bottom, gaining valuable insights in the process. Now, I see with a new perspective, feeling more empathy and possessing a heightened capacity to push forward to evoke change. A woman filled with love, like me, is a bright beacon for the tormented, ashamed, and broken souls who have been discarded by society.

I recognize those who feel shamed, blamed, or maimed. I thought I had seen it all, but now I see more than ever and can summon the strength forged in my dark nights to heal myself. This passion once burst forth during a higher self therapeutic intervention with psilocybin. “Psychology and psychedelics, through therapy and research, lead you to discover your true self.” 

Therapists are healers—not just for themselves, but for those whose paths they align with. The mushrooms revealed this to me in July 2013, just a month before I completed a year-long dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) program. 

While brainstorming new ideas for "DBT groups 2.0" with my best friend, I realized my calling is to create therapeutic formats. I felt fear initially when running my own sessions, but by 2024, I found my footing again and was ready to embrace my work.

However, life had other plans, and I faced more trauma. My ex had threatened to make things "as hard as possible" for me. Why would anyone do this?